East Coast Hypnosis LLC
Changing Your Life By Changing Your Mind!
Elizabeth Marian Kilkenny CH, CNLP , HypnoCoach, Emotional Intelligence Behavioral Specialist
845-765-0712 $125.00 per session
What is emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is the type of intelligence (there are nine types) responsible for our ability to be aware of our emotions and the emotions of others and then use that awareness to manage ourselves and our relationships with others.
Emotional intelligence determines whether we have warm, meaningful relationships with others or alternatively have distant, easily overwhelmed relationships with others.
Emotional intelligence addresses what is underneath the surface. In the example above, why is it so important for the youngest to have her pink dress that day? Is she feeling sad, angry, insecure? Getting angry at her for the way she feels instead of helping her get to the root of her feeling will only fuel a greater sense of loss within both parties.
Why do we need emotional intelligence?
Statistics speak volumes! Based on research, up to 80% of our success in work and in life is due to our emotional intelligence. If this number is not high enough to convince you, did you know that people with higher hostility scores (low EI scores) had almost 5x more heart disease and more than 5x the premature death rate than those with low to moderate scores? Still not convinced? The Annals of Behavioral Medicine summarized 10 studies on anxiety and heart disease involving 40,000 participants. They found the risk of heart disease is 2-7x higher in people with high levels of anxiety. High levels of anxiety are linked to a lower ability to deal with feelings and emotions in the moment (lower EI scores). What about depression? Stress? Worry? What role does each one play in your life and in the life of others around you?
How can emotional intelligence coaching help me?
Emotional intelligence coaching works on 4 quadrants:
Self-awareness: I can recognize my feelings and emotions separate from other people’s feelings and emotions. I know what I am feeling and why. I realize the links between my feelings and what I think, do, or say. I recognize how my feelings affect my performance. I understand how my feelings guide my values and goals and interact with my emotions. How well are you able to do this for yourself?
Awareness of others: When we become self-aware, we can develop empathy and compassion towards others. Instead of taking things personally (judging / blaming), we ask ourselves what happened to make the other person react this way. We then give them room (make it safe) for them to figure out their own behavior and what they wish to do differently in your relationship together. How fast are you quick to judge/blame others?
Self-Management: The more we know who we are, what we need, and what we want in our life, the more emotional control we have onto our self. We are not triggered easily. We manage our stress/anxiety levels well because we know how to make room for ourselves in our own life. This is the place where we develop our integrity, intentionality, resilience, creativity, and optimism (to name a few). How much time do you make just for yourself?
Relationship with others: People with low emotional intelligence can get irritated easily and their anger can make them treat others in an abusive manner. They may also feel imbalance in their work, their life, their health, and with family members. How much do your parents drive you up the wall?
When we are becoming self-aware and managing our self, we become grounded. From that peaceful place within, we develop deep, meaningful relationships. We exercise a positive influence onto others. We communicate effectively. We foster team work. We become trustworthy. Now, who does not want all this in their life? I know I do. What about you?